Mostly you just kinda go with it. Act chill. Act fly. Sunglasses help. Motorcycles, too.
Actually, I don't know. But it seemed to work a lot in Happy Days.
I think there's books on it, though. Until then, I can only wish you best of luck and tell you to just go with instincts, because while they may be seemingly insane, most of the time, they're right.
Well, you can try what I've done (twice). It goes as follows:
Step 1: Write emotional letter/email, telling the other person you're in love with them.
Step 2: Face the bitter disappointment when they tell you that they're with someone else/they never want to see you again, etc, etc.
Step 3: Become very shocked when the person says they are in love with you too.
Step 4: As the other person admitted their love after you, let them do all the date work, first kiss, etc, etc.
Step 5: Hope that the other person can get over their ex. Otherwise it gets sticky.
That or you could try the other method that I'm told works. You want sunglasses, chewing gum and she should really be a waitress. This method also would not work if you're wanting Mike to go out with you, due to a case of him being the wrong sex.
The third option I think, would be to be yourself, and suggest that you maybe went and did something date-like.
(I'm not meaning to be whiny, it just kind of happened. Go out, go for it, and be happy.)
Just be honest. You are such a wonderful and beautiful person that even if not interested, she will probably still be your friend. Good first dates are simple ones, centered on common interests (if you know of any).
It's my understanding that you sorta go up to the other person and say, hey, what are you doing on Saturday? Wanna go see a movie/a play/go horseback-riding/make out wildly?
Bonus points if you don't try to act like anyone but yourself while doing it.
Of course, there's also the tried and true method of writing the other person a note, asking them to either cross yes or no (Will you go out with me on Saturday? I promise, I'm fully housetrained.). It's very retro.
Uhm, she is from the LGBT, but I just met her last Wednesday. However, she's utterly sweet, and likes Terry Pratchett and, for reason passing understanding, me. Also, she's an English major and as such her eyes don't glaze over when I mention Shakespeare. Very weird.
On the Wednesday all we did was dance (which was fun, holding hands and doing a slight bump and grind) and then tak for about 4 hours, which was very good. And then we have a quasi-date tomorrow, which'll be good. I hope.
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Date: 2007-02-02 12:25 am (UTC)Actually, I don't know. But it seemed to work a lot in Happy Days.
I think there's books on it, though. Until then, I can only wish you best of luck and tell you to just go with instincts, because while they may be seemingly insane, most of the time, they're right.
And *hugs*
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Date: 2007-02-02 05:08 pm (UTC)Instincts are good. I just need to locate mine.
*hugs*
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Date: 2007-02-02 11:55 am (UTC)Step 1: Write emotional letter/email, telling the other person you're in love with them.
Step 2: Face the bitter disappointment when they tell you that they're with someone else/they never want to see you again, etc, etc.
Step 3: Become very shocked when the person says they are in love with you too.
Step 4: As the other person admitted their love after you, let them do all the date work, first kiss, etc, etc.
Step 5: Hope that the other person can get over their ex. Otherwise it gets sticky.
That or you could try the other method that I'm told works. You want sunglasses, chewing gum and she should really be a waitress. This method also would not work if you're wanting Mike to go out with you, due to a case of him being the wrong sex.
The third option I think, would be to be yourself, and suggest that you maybe went and did something date-like.
(I'm not meaning to be whiny, it just kind of happened. Go out, go for it, and be happy.)
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Date: 2007-02-02 05:12 pm (UTC)*hugs* You can be whiny, Frey, what you're going through sucks. *hugs more*
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Date: 2007-02-02 02:03 pm (UTC)Good Luck****crosses fingers***
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Date: 2007-02-02 05:19 pm (UTC)(Also! How is Oxford? Still amazing?)
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Date: 2007-02-03 01:09 pm (UTC)its like intellectual satisfaction and summer camp!
I have my lectures but also, fencing, horse riding, swimming, rowing, and running.
I am so happy here.
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Date: 2007-02-05 08:28 pm (UTC)Also, horse-riding? Seriously?
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Date: 2007-02-06 11:47 am (UTC)I have lessons on Thursdays
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Date: 2007-02-02 06:32 pm (UTC)Bonus points if you don't try to act like anyone but yourself while doing it.
Of course, there's also the tried and true method of writing the other person a note, asking them to either cross yes or no (Will you go out with me on Saturday? I promise, I'm fully housetrained.). It's very retro.
In other words, good luck!
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Date: 2007-02-02 07:21 pm (UTC)Which is all to say that we're going out for drinks (how grown-up does that sound?) on Tuesday.
BWEE!
So now all I have to do is panic about this weekend and think about how best to be myself.
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Date: 2007-02-02 10:22 pm (UTC)Honey, I'm sure you'll do great. Don't *think* about how to be yourself, just *do* it. You do it naturally every day.
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Date: 2007-02-03 04:24 am (UTC)(oh why oh why do i so terribly FAIL at human relations?)
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Date: 2007-02-03 08:53 am (UTC)(no subject)
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Date: 2007-02-04 01:11 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2007-07-06 09:00 pm (UTC)On the Wednesday all we did was dance (which was fun, holding hands and doing a slight bump and grind) and then tak for about 4 hours, which was very good. And then we have a quasi-date tomorrow, which'll be good. I hope.