ain't it a shame, too bad, you're gonna miss the girl

[ink_splotch]

So. Uh. How does one go about this business of asking another person out on a date? Are there guidelines somewhere? Are there rules? Can one mis-step?

I'm so very confused.

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[http://users.livejournal.com/trobany__/]

Mostly you just kinda go with it. Act chill. Act fly. Sunglasses help. Motorcycles, too.

Actually, I don't know. But it seemed to work a lot in Happy Days.

I think there's books on it, though. Until then, I can only wish you best of luck and tell you to just go with instincts, because while they may be seemingly insane, most of the time, they're right.

And *hugs*

[vampirespider.livejournal.com]

Hehe. See, I'm basing my knowledge of dating on Dawson's Creek and I really don't need to be that fucked up.

Instincts are good. I just need to locate mine.

*hugs*

[madfrog.livejournal.com]

Well, you can try what I've done (twice). It goes as follows:

Step 1: Write emotional letter/email, telling the other person you're in love with them.

Step 2: Face the bitter disappointment when they tell you that they're with someone else/they never want to see you again, etc, etc.

Step 3: Become very shocked when the person says they are in love with you too.

Step 4: As the other person admitted their love after you, let them do all the date work, first kiss, etc, etc.

Step 5: Hope that the other person can get over their ex. Otherwise it gets sticky.

That or you could try the other method that I'm told works. You want sunglasses, chewing gum and she should really be a waitress. This method also would not work if you're wanting Mike to go out with you, due to a case of him being the wrong sex.

The third option I think, would be to be yourself, and suggest that you maybe went and did something date-like.

(I'm not meaning to be whiny, it just kind of happened. Go out, go for it, and be happy.)

[vampirespider.livejournal.com]

It's not Mike - no way is anything going to happen there, so this is me, moving on. I hope.

*hugs* You can be whiny, Frey, what you're going through sucks. *hugs more*

[http://users.livejournal.com/_quixotical_/]

Just be honest. You are such a wonderful and beautiful person that even if not interested, she will probably still be your friend. Good first dates are simple ones, centered on common interests (if you know of any).

Good Luck****crosses fingers***

[vampirespider.livejournal.com]

Thank you! Ugh, I've just never done anything like this before. I feel a bit silly, really.

(Also! How is Oxford? Still amazing?)

[http://users.livejournal.com/_quixotical_/]

very..

its like intellectual satisfaction and summer camp!

I have my lectures but also, fencing, horse riding, swimming, rowing, and running.

I am so happy here.

[vampirespider.livejournal.com]

Sounds absolutely lovely - I'm so happy for you :D

Also, horse-riding? Seriously?

[http://users.livejournal.com/_quixotical_/]

yeah seriously...

I have lessons on Thursdays

[lattara.livejournal.com]

It's my understanding that you sorta go up to the other person and say, hey, what are you doing on Saturday? Wanna go see a movie/a play/go horseback-riding/make out wildly?

Bonus points if you don't try to act like anyone but yourself while doing it.

Of course, there's also the tried and true method of writing the other person a note, asking them to either cross yes or no (Will you go out with me on Saturday? I promise, I'm fully housetrained.). It's very retro.

In other words, good luck!

[vampirespider.livejournal.com]

Or you can hedge your bets and ask in a platonicky kind of way, even though you have a feeling you both kind of know it's a date.

Which is all to say that we're going out for drinks (how grown-up does that sound?) on Tuesday.

BWEE!

So now all I have to do is panic about this weekend and think about how best to be myself.

[lattara.livejournal.com]

Also a tried and true method. *nods wisely*

Honey, I'm sure you'll do great. Don't *think* about how to be yourself, just *do* it. You do it naturally every day.

[vampirespider.livejournal.com]

Gnah. Let's hope that works?

(oh why oh why do i so terribly FAIL at human relations?)

[lattara.livejournal.com]

Don't be silly, darling. You WIN at human relations. Just look at me! You're doing alright with me, aren't you? *grins*

[vampirespider.livejournal.com]

Honey, you are the abberation of my life and I love you for that. *hugs*

[lattara.livejournal.com]

Heee! Why, thank you, doll. ♥

[shubassdk.livejournal.com]

Oooh! Who is it? That girl from the lesbian-thingy? What did you end up doing?

[vampirespider.livejournal.com]

Uhm, she is from the LGBT, but I just met her last Wednesday. However, she's utterly sweet, and likes Terry Pratchett and, for reason passing understanding, me. Also, she's an English major and as such her eyes don't glaze over when I mention Shakespeare. Very weird.

On the Wednesday all we did was dance (which was fun, holding hands and doing a slight bump and grind) and then tak for about 4 hours, which was very good. And then we have a quasi-date tomorrow, which'll be good. I hope.