your heart is racing as your fingers touch your skin

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I may have just bought a vibrator.

I blame this on the fact that Jenny and I had a rather animated discussion while having lunch together today about sex shops. It included us complaining about the lack of them in Leicester - all we have is an Ann Summers, which is way to expensive, heteronormative and also full of giggling girls. Not that I really mind that, but it does grate a bit. It's nothing like LUST back in Copenhagen, where I can spend half an hour browsing and just enjoying the atmosphere. I love LUST, it's one of the nicest shops, and it's just so kind of low-key and relaxed. My sex life is predominantly with myself (and will be for a while, 'cause I really, really don't want to rush things with Gemma and fuck them up) and I'm a full believer in enjoying it full out, but more than that - sex amuses me. I like just browsing and getting turned on, or cracking up (seriously? Have you *seen* some of the vibrators they make? I seriously wouldn't be able to get off for giggling). Sex is fun! Plus LUST has freakin' everything you could possibly want.

Also, for some reason in Denmark, despite the fact that we're all more than happy to discuss our sex lives with other people - really, sometimes veering into overshare in public places, and that's even without the addition of alcohol - but we hardly ever talk about masturbation. Which is a shame, because I know I could use tips (seriously, guys? If you ever want to talk about masturbation, I am SO THERE.). For some reason masturbation seems more taboo than sex, and I can't quite figure out why.

However, since I've come to England, I've had discussions with people who are not Sofie or Freya about masturbation, vibrators and sex toys. Granted with Lily, Jenny and Gemma who are more mature than most, but still. Considering Ros can barely talk about sex and Mike can't seem to get over the fact that I can, I'm quite bemused by this. Still, it's good for me, since if there's a topic I enjoy it's sex. We should all talk about it more - in open terms, I mean, not the constant sniggering or hinting that goes on.

Jenny and I also discussed the buying of video pornography, which was an astonishingly liberating thing for me, because it's something I've often been tempted to do, but always felt a bit embarressed about. No longer! Which brings me right back to my point, which is communication.

Anyway, this led to Jenny sending me her favourite online links, and me browsing them, which naturally led to my hopefully soon once again being the proud owner of a vibrator. I am a little amused by the fact it took me all of four clicks to determine which one I wanted - too much time spent in LUST? Too much helping others to buy theirs?

Finally, this post should definitely be seen as an invitation to talk about masturbation. Or sex. Or kinks. Or turn-ons. Or favourite fantasies. Go crazy!

ETA: Incidentally this is the site I used. It's quite cheap and easy, and they have a really good selection. This is the vibrator I ended up buying.

Comments

[http://users.livejournal.com/trobany__/]

You know, you're quite lucky to at least have *some* people to go about discussing this with. I've only the default person -- the boy, of course -- and don't get me wrong, I absolutely love him even more for being able to talk about sex/masturbation/the like so openly and hilariously, but that's about it. It used to be okay with one of my friends, and then she decided she really, really wanted to make out with me among other things and.. well, I'm really not all that into it myself. So now I can't talk about anything sex-related without her wanting to do things with me. And that's not good.

And the rest of my friends are either prude or it'd simply be awkward talking about such with them.

Sob. It's aggravating as all hell, honestly. It's so much fun to talk about and yet.. nothing. ):

Although, you're spot on with this whole communication thing. It's so, so, so incredibly true. I have particular examples in which communication = best, but, I think I'll refrain for now. Hee. *sly grin*

Unless, you know..

No, no. I'm done now. You're right. And lucky in many ways. I might be going to a sex shop with above mentioned friend that wants to be with me this upcoming Sunday. It'll be our first time, of course, since we both just turned 18 recently. It'll be an event worth talking about, to say the least.

[vampirespider.livejournal.com]

I do realize this and it was more of a general call for everyone to talk about masturbation - sex everyone can indulge in! Heh.

Your friend is kind of over the line. It's okay to say that she's attracted to you, or even that you can't talk about things like that because it turns her on, or whatever, but taking it as an invitation? That's just a no.

See? This makes me sad. It *is* fun! We should be more open about it!

*grins back* Anytime you want to share. As I've said to others - I have little-to-no TMI boundaries. Within reason, of course ;)

That'd be awesome! But you've got to pick one of the good ones - cosy, yet with a sense of humour and an understanding that girls also want to have fun (in bed).

[http://users.livejournal.com/trobany__/]

*slightly delayed response -- my bad*

Yay! You're so open with everything, it's awesome. Truly, truly awesome.

Yeah.. you know, I kinda felt bad, turning her down all the time, because she is ridiculously attractive (see picture of her here: wee!" And hee!) and she admits that I'm the only girl she's ever really felt attraction to, but.. I'm straight. That's really it. And at the time that she really wanted to be with me, I was already long into my relationship with Peter (this was Easter of last year) so she knew and all. But yes. I think she's got the idea now, thankfully.

Well, if it's anything, partly inspired by you, I went into my first porn shop tonight. With a male, no less! My friend Max, Sam, and myself were driving about around 11 tonight and Max was like "hey, wanna go into that 'Adult Boutique' over there?" And I thought about it for a while, cos we always joked that we would, and then I thought about this post, and how we should all just be more open about it, and I went into the next u-turn and pulled in and parked. Unfortunately, my friend Sam is 17 so she had to stay in the car (she thought it was all hilarious, though) and damnit, that place was awesome. Very hilarious, just as I suspected. It was a bit awkward at first, mostly because I felt I was being violated just by *being* there, surrounded by all sorts of nudity, but after a while it was just fun. I think we're going back tomorrow night, but without my friend. I would have stuck around longer if I didn't feel so bad.

Hee.

Well, as far as the other story goes that I could tell you.. it's a tad more personal, personal as in probably-should-not-post-in-an-open-forum, but I could totally email it to you. It's brief, really. And cute. And within your boundaries, I'm assuming. Tell me if you'd like to hear, hun. I'd love to share, but, I've no one to share it with. ):

*hugs hugs hugs* Now I definitely have to find porno shops for me and the boy to go in when we're in England together. I just have to.

[vampirespider.livejournal.com]

Thank you kindly!

*hugs* I'm sorry about that, must be hard for both of you. The girlfriend and I were just talking about our own respective straight-girl-crushes, back in the day, so I feel for both of you. *hugs again*

YAY! I'm so, so glad it was a good experience for you. Sex shops really should be fun and intriguing and just interesting. I have this theory of sex shops as a place of discovery, where you go to explore your own relationship with sex. I think more people should visit them.

Depending on where you and the boy are staying, there are some pretty good ones over here. Particularly in the bigger cities.

Also, yes! Email it to me! *grins*